有艰难的一天吗？ 3个快速步骤来帮助您重新开始

没有比让每个人都有机会重新开始更好的工具了！ 

I often say 那 it is important to 每天开始新. I also say 那 it is even more important to 从每小时或每分钟开始 things are rough! 我知道，我去过那里，还有其他数千个家庭。

Your kids are trying to learn how to fit into your family, how to read your non-verbal cues, how to express emotion appropriately, how to trust, all in the midst of grief and loss, emotional immaturity and the many impacts of trauma 那 create hundreds of hurdles.

他们注定要奋斗！

The reality is 那 as parents of adoptive or foster children 我们也面临着自己的障碍。 例如， progress is so slow that sometimes we are convinced it isn't even happening. Or the lack of preparedness when it comes to our children's deficits. Not to mention the sheer exhaustion we face every day as we run to appointments, jump through paper work hoops, and just try to fill the bucket with a hole in it 那 is our child!

难怪我们会自问，失去冷静，也不要总是选择最有治疗效果的方式来应对情况！

The one thing I know for sure is 那 if we (the parents) get stuck in self-loathing, hopelessness, or an "I Quit" attitude our kids receive the message they already know so well - I am NOT lovable! The result is 那 they become what they believe they are.  然后，我们会看到刻薄的举止，不信任，没有同理心或良心，缺乏动力，破坏了他们生活中的善良等等！ 

教您的3d跨度振幅重新开始的概念是一个真正的礼物 他们，它会改变 您一天的整个动态也是如此！     

这是重新开始的3个工具步骤...

1.停止说话
It is important to stop adding to the spin of emotion 那 is happening. We often fuel the moment with words - questions, accusations, ultimatums. 现在不是时候！ 您3d跨度振幅的肢体系统已开始使用，因此他们无法从您的语言中学习，他们也无法以您希望的方式回答，而当我们的3d跨度振幅不得不使用旧的生存技能时，创造的时光正在使您所做的事情变得无用！如果需要（通常不是），您可以稍后再问您的问题。

2.创造安全   
Our kids are survivors. If they go through an emotional experience, they are bound to be emotionally pushed to 那 survivor self. We can be healing even in the face of the turmoil if we 照顾他们的基本需求。提供食物。给他们带来舒适的物品。他们太温暖了吗？感冒了吗修理它。现在为您做同样的事情。  

3.向他们展示如何完成
Show them 那 when we mess up we can start over with the people in our family. Consistently use techniques 那 work. Deep breathing. Turn on the music and sing. Journal. Pray. Meditate. Whatever works for you. Let go of the behavior or words they are just the wall 那 keeps you from seeing your whole child. They are born of loss and grief. Those 行为和言语与您无关。 困难的是 摆在您面前，这样您就可以帮助3d跨度振幅应对他要面对的巨大情绪。

重新开始 is a tool 那 is key to survival as an Adoptive or Foster Parent, 但这也是一个非常强大的工具，我们可以教我们的3d跨度振幅面对自我怀疑时使用！ 从这三个步骤开始，为整个家庭做出改变！